Compliment Thread!

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Compliment Thread!

Compliment Thread!

Hello, CBers!

embers to ashes made this thread a while ago, and the concept has been around for way longer, but I really enjoyed this thread... so here it is. 

One of the things I love about this thread is how it just spreads love and that's something we kind of need right now.

Have fun! I'll post my compliments after the thread posts.

Love,

Luminescence 

submitted by Luminescence, age XI, California
(October 8, 2020 - 3:31 pm)

Oh dear, I'm trying to...I'll get around to complimenting ALL the CBers! Yes, I'm that cheerful. But really. If I hadn't almost left, I would be ignored too. Guys, look at the CB Census! This is what it was made for! (I THINK) 

submitted by Nightfall, age vacationin, HAWAII!!
(October 19, 2020 - 12:24 am)

Thank you so much to everyone who complimented me! You all made me really happy. :)

But here’s the thing. Although I’ve been complimented a bunch on this thread, I used to be one of those people who never got any compliments, and I know how that feels. Awful. And even if you’re a lesser-known CBer and you do get compliments, they never feel particularly sincere.

And I feel like I’m terrible at complimenting people on the CB, since I don’t actually really know anyone, and if I just compliment the people I do feel like I know (though I don’t even know how I get it in my head that I feel like I know those people any more than any of the rest of you), I feel awful for leaving other people out. Plus, I’ve been fading away from the CB a little bit (you know how it goes... school...), and I’ve noticed an odd tendency of mine to not actually notice who posts what, and for both of these reasons I’m starting to feel like I just don’t really know anyone. 

So all of this is to say that I don’t think I can compliment anyone today, and I’m vaguely uncomfortable with the idea of compliment threads in general. I’m sorry! I know this is an unpopular opinion! But that’s just how I’m feeling right now. :(

submitted by Kitten, age too young, to vote
(October 18, 2020 - 8:28 pm)

I kind of agree with you, Kitten. I loved each of the compliments I got, but all these comments from anonymous posters and also Chickadee made me see that the more compliments other people get, the more hurt other people can become. It was a good concept, but I think that it does, after all, maybe do more hurt than good. And @Anonymous, I'm really, really sorry that  you haven't been complimented. You deserve better, and I hope you can forgive me and everyone else for hurting you. I feel like there has been a lot of people feeling hurt or left out on the CB in the past few weeks, although I guess this isn't really the place to talk about it, and I'm so sorry to all of you, and I just wish I could give you a hug and a big cup of hot chocolate or coffee or tea or other hot drink, because you deserve that and more. I'm so, so sorry, I can't say that enough. And this comment needs to end now, because I'm rambling again, but you're all incredible people and I'm so lucky to know you, no matter what. <3

submitted by PygmyOwl
(October 18, 2020 - 11:15 pm)

I agree. I don't know if we should stop having compliment threads or not, though... @Admins, what do you think?

Also, although I know it can really hurt not to be complimented, remember that it doesn't even matter that much what some random kids on the internet think of you! Believe me, I would trade my "popularity"- if you could call it that- on this site for a group of close, loving friends irl, any day. What matters is who you are, not who people you've never even really met think you are.

I don't know, though. If people could put in their opinions, I'd like to see!

P.S. @Luminescence, please don't feel bad about the stuff happening on this thread, I know you had good intentions! 

Feeling left out is very understandable. Whenever a list is posted, a likely consequence is that someone may be left out with hurt feelings. It might be better to just compliment one or two people who stand out to you from time to time.

Admin

submitted by Azalea, age 13, Earth
(October 19, 2020 - 8:11 am)

Thanks for saying that, Azalea, because I was, a little.

And yeah, I think everyone who posted above is kind of right. I love compliment threads because they spread kindness, but I didn't really think about the consequences of them, like how some people could feel left out and such.

To those people (anonymous in particular) I'm really extremely sorry. Please know that was certainly not my intention when creating this thread and I'm really sorry it made you feel bad.

Maybe we shouldn't have compliment threads anymore. Because you actually don't need a compliment thread to give compliments. And it can feel a little exclusive.

-Luminescence 

submitted by Luminescence, age 12, California
(October 19, 2020 - 3:01 pm)

Hmmm... maybe someone could make a list or use the CB census to compliment one person at a time. Or we could do an idea I thought of a while back called "Fan Letters" where someone writes a compliment or letter to one CBer, then that CBer has to do someone else...idk. I guess I get mentioned a bit, but others don't ever. We need to think of a solution!!

submitted by Jubi, age hmm, the stratosphere
(October 19, 2020 - 3:09 pm)

That sounds cool! I like that idea!

submitted by Sophie T., age 17, Gotham
(October 27, 2020 - 10:50 am)

Yeah. I'm still one of those people who never gets mentioned on compliment threads, even though I've been around for... 4+ years.

submitted by I agree.
(October 19, 2020 - 5:52 am)

More compliments!! :)

(I really really wish I had the time to compliment everybody school's annoying ugh)

rinoftheforest: You're so kind and sweet and have such interesting posts. Your bunny is adorable. :) I'd love to get to know you better!

Majestic Mary: You're clever and amazing and fun and interesting and all of the things. You have the coolest ideas.

RR: You're so cool. Period. You're happy and upbeat and fun. :D

moonshine, MoonHalo, Pizza Roll, and all other new CBers: I don't know any of you very well yet, but you sound awesome and I can't wait to see what you contribute. :)

Sadly, I really need to go do homework, but maybe I'll be back. One last thing:

EVERYBODY (and I mean all of you): Every single one of you is amazing. You all bring something special and the CB brightens my day. You are creative, amazing people. All of you. 

submitted by Starchaser, age 12, Pyrrhia, (she/her)
(October 19, 2020 - 9:06 am)

embers to ashes- for a second I forgot you were surrounded by books but then I was like oh yeah haha that's SBB. Anyways, I just wanted to thank you for doing so many fun posts (doing fun posts? is that how people say it? idk) like the compliment thread uwu okie im done with this one

aqua- I LOVE YOU! Not in an romantic way, but like you're one of those people/CBers that I stalk and watch and  decide that I like so then I finally gather the courage to talk to you and it kinda fails >_< haha  Also, I love your emoticons! I use them all the time now. let's count how many are in here so far: 1 in the location box, another in the age box, one in SBB's compliment, and yet ANOTHER in yours. Seriously. This is a medical problem. 

Kitty Cat- haha I distinctly remember clicking on your picturings thread and predicting that it was going to be anime-style drawings XD But I was wrong! I love your art style and you remind me of Chickadee!

Velvet Serpent- So I feel like you're always lurking around and being mysterious, so my brain was like "whoa that person's coouol" and so I always read your posts and I was so honored when you asked me for a picturing as Cosme Nadia. മ◡മ I hope you liked it bc that was one of my picturings that took pretty long. a n y w a y s this compliment probably won't mean much to you since you don't know me (or I never talked to you at least) but I hope that I didn't just take five minutes to bare my heart and soul for nothing. h e h  h e h

Bakerloo! I love your Æs and I think you're just really cool ,,,^.^,,, 

submitted by Jubi, age .-. , ._.
(October 19, 2020 - 10:38 am)

More!

Sybil: (forgive me if I spelled your name wrong) I don't know you as well as I'd like to, but judging by the super awesome looking RP you posted, you are super great at creating characters! As I read the character discription, I really want to read a whole novel about each one. I can't join the RP now, but I will for sure be reading it! 

submitted by Jade J., daydreams cafe
(October 19, 2020 - 10:51 am)

But I also think they can bring lots of good and positivity. On the last compliment thread, I was feeling kinda left out because I didn't get complimented, but this time I was just happy reading how much everybody admires everyone else. I don't know, think it's complicated. 

submitted by Jade J., daydreams cafe
(October 19, 2020 - 1:52 pm)

Hi everyone- I thought I'd jump in and do my best to spread a little more love.

(First, though, thank you so much, Nightfall! <3)

Second: being left out sucks. It really does. I'm sad it's something people might feel on the CB- a place where I've only felt welcome and safe. Compliment threads are something I've always been grateful for and happy to post on- but I've definitely left some people out. Here's what I'd like you to understand, all: it's hard to remember everyone. We can't scan a classroom or a hallway and remember just who we'd like to compliement. We can't have all the words just materealize on the page, just how they would apply to everyone.

We don't do it on purpose. We do see you. But it's a little harder to compliment people who maybe we don't see very often, and it's even harder to give them a sincere compliment. That doesn't mean you haven't contributed anything. It doesn't mean you're going unnoticed. It doesn't mean we don't like you! 

Can I tell you what the "everyone" compliment is for? It's a recognition to everyone who hasn't been mentioned- because when a CBer adds an "everyone" compliment, they're saying they realize they didn't quite get everyone, but that they also know everyone is valid and has something awesome to offer to the CB. 

Could I make a suggestion? It's an idea I remember from a previous compliment thread. Every time someone makes a post, they HAVE to compliment one person who has yet to receive a compliment, therefore including more people!

Thanks lovelies, and I hope you have a good day <3 

submitted by Hope the Dove, You are all awesome!
(October 19, 2020 - 5:26 pm)

@Hawthorne, I love your art style and it's awesome that you're still keeping up with Inktober!(I failed Inktober really early on xD)

submitted by Tealeaf, Steeping
(October 23, 2020 - 6:29 pm)