I need help.

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I need help.

I need help. I started a very large public school this week and already I see people being hazed, harassed, heckled, being called awful names, and worse. I was hoping maybe I could get advice on how to stick up for one's self so that teens who don't know how to stick up for themselves can get help here.

submitted by Isa A., age 13, Eureka, CA
(August 23, 2008 - 6:57 pm)

This is pretty horrible. I hate it when people are so rude to each other. There are ways you can help, but put your safety first. Some of the bullies will hurt you for standing up to them. Instead report them to the office. Just talk with a councellor or principle and keep anonymous. If someone is being physically harassed you need to tell a teacher. I know I sound like your mom but you have to go to an adult. Also once the bully the leaves you can try to cheer up the victim. But remember that confronting bullies can get you into big trouble, leave it to the teachers.

PS. If you ever feel unsafe or afraid of coming to school talk to a teacher/councellor. Once it starts effecting your school work it's a big problem. Hope this helped!

submitted by Wendy C., age 15, Ohio
(August 24, 2008 - 10:42 am)

Thanks, Wendy, for your encouragement. The thing is, though, that I've tried reporting bullies, but my school is so large (2,000 kids) that the teachers/counselors don't deal with it. Also, at my school there's no anonymous policy. So if you tell on them (bullies), the teachers will happily give them the info on who ratted them out. So not only do the bullies humiiate you again, nobody will let you in their cilque. Cliques are also a very big downer at my school. I don't really fit in with any "group," because I think they're stupid. I would change to another school, but it's the only one in our area.

submitted by Isa A., age 13, Eureka, CA
(August 24, 2008 - 2:36 pm)

That didn't stop me!  I go an hour both ways to school because I'm at a private school in Syracuse now.  I love it and it totally works for me, although tuition is $16,000 a year.  The reason I changed schools is because I had a lot of problems at my old school.  I was homeschooled since kindergarten and started at a public school in 5th grade.  I didn't fit in at all, and even the teachers hated me.  My math and social studies teacher in 6th grade was a MONSTER.  I'm serious.  If I had known about the Percy Jackson and the Olympians series back then I would have compared her to Mrs. Dodds!  And she WAS a monster.  My chorus teacher hated me too, which was a big problem for me because I am, first and foremost, a singer, and am currently about to audition for the lead in an opera (!!! wish me luck!!!).  Sorry I'm wandering off topic, I just got a braces adjustment and am in PAAAIN right now.  Anyway, the kids really hated me, and I literally had no friends.  This year was hard for me too, since I started at private school in 7th grade and am starting 8th grade on (weird) the 8th of September.  The kids didn't like me at first, but I have gotten a lot better at making friends and a lot of my friendships have been strengthened this summer.  There was a really rough spot last November, because the counselor really had it in for me.  There was an incident with a mini white board in my locker, and another one where a girl's mom called the school because someone told the girl I accused her of taking something of mine (it was a joke rumor and everyone knew it wasn't true), and then this one kid (who I still hate) was bullying me after school one day and the counselor made it seem like it was MY FAULT.  So I kinda played hooky for two weeks.  Actually, my mom made me.  Then this girl I barely knew called me up and asked me if I was OK.  She convinced me to come back to school, and turns out a lot of people missed me.  The counselor still hates me so I just avoid him.  And one of the teachers drove me crazy but I got all A's in his class anyway.  So I don't know, that's my happy ending.  I don't know if this has helped you at all, but it does help me to talk about it, and guess what?  My braces don't hurt as much any more!! Yay!!

submitted by Hannah R., age 13, New York
(August 25, 2008 - 1:12 pm)

The best way (that I know of) to keep someone from disliking you is to show that you don't dislike them. Like doing something nice for them.

submitted by Emily L., age 13, WA
(August 26, 2008 - 2:36 pm)

And u kno what's so stupid? That these counselors are getting hired!! They DO NOT DESERVE THAT MONEY IF THEY ARE GONNA B MEAN 2 KIDS!!!!

submitted by Rachel M., age 10, Neenah, WI
(July 31, 2010 - 9:30 am)

Stick up for yourself! TALK TO THE PRINCIPAL.


submitted by The Man For Aeiou, age 12, Museica
(August 25, 2008 - 4:28 pm)

The key thing is JUST KEEP TELLING. If still, after telling every single adult you know, nobody listens, you can even go 2 the police station. You want to help these kids, and if they aren't helped, what's gonna happen 2 them? And if the POLIC don't listen 2 u, call one of your teachers, most trusted and beloved of them all, from your old school, and ask her if like on the weekends of anything she can help. Even if it's someone who lives far away, they prob wouldn't have 2 go 2 your school 2 end this.

i hope this helped! 

submitted by Rachel M., age 10, Neenah, WI
(July 31, 2010 - 9:27 am)

You might feel safer if you learned self-defense. If what Wendy was saying about bullies is true at your school.

submitted by Emily L., age 13, WA
(August 24, 2008 - 12:21 pm)

Work out and build a great pain tolerence by putting your hand in a mixture of ice water and salt for as long as you can, then build your confidence so that nothing could harm it.

submitted by Simon K., age 13, New York
(August 27, 2008 - 10:40 am)

simon that was not helpful.  only YOU would say something like that. that doesn't work in the real world.  you've told me stuff like this before, remember?

the rest of you are probably confused... simon goes to my school.  i convinced him to go on the site. 

submitted by Hannah R., age 13, New York
(August 27, 2008 - 1:59 pm)

Is your problem with physical bullies or emotional bullies?

submitted by Anais A., age 14, Bay area, CA
(August 27, 2008 - 2:50 pm)

If it didnt work, then obviously you didn't do it the right way. Hey, it worked for me.

submitted by Simon K., age 13, New York
(August 31, 2008 - 12:55 pm)

Oh, good grief!       ;8 \                   

submitted by Emily L., age 13, WA
(August 27, 2008 - 3:45 pm)

Surprised Man, that is rough. I got the same thing when I started public school. All that bullies want is attention; they don't care whether it is positive attention or negatave attention. If they realize thay aren't getting feedbake from you, then they'll lay off. If they don't, then inform the principal.Wink

submitted by Jordan M, age 12, **** Road Calif
(March 4, 2009 - 5:28 pm)

But I think the problem is the principal and the counselor WEREN'T LISTENING? That's just dumb that those ppl even got HIREd if they aren't gonna pay attention to the kids!

submitted by Rachel M., age 10, Neenah, WI
(July 31, 2010 - 9:31 am)