Hi! I've never

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Hi! I've never

Hi! I've never posted before but I read posts here. I really need some advice.

I have this friend who's really bad at texting me back. Like we talk alot in person but if I text her she might take 2 weeks to text back or she just won't. I texted her the other day and she didn't text back, and usually I'd wait to talk in person but i won't see her until at least the end of April. So I kinda want to text again, but i feel like that seems like i don't have any other friends, but I want to talk to her before I see her in person so I don't know what to do.

Sorry, that was a really long explanation... does anyone have advice?

Some people just don't communicate certain ways. I have two very good friends who never return emails. I myself rarely use my cell phone or check it for messages. Try a different form of communication. Try phoning her or write a note and send it through the mail.

Admin

submitted by someone, somewhere
(April 3, 2020 - 9:19 pm)

Maybe you should call your friend or get in touch with her in a different way that's not texting and tell her that it's important to you that she texts you back. I bet that I've y'all talk about it and she realizes that responding is important to you, she'll start texting back or you'll work out the other means of communication that works for her. I hope you find a solution to your problem!

submitted by Jade J., age 12 yrs.
(April 4, 2020 - 12:03 pm)
submitted by Top
(April 4, 2020 - 4:30 pm)

I've been having the same problem with one of my friends. I text her and email her and she doens't respond. I'm going to write her a letter or call her and then I'm going to drop it. I also want to talk to her before I see her next, but if she doesn't respond, that might just not happen. I would try calling her and if she doesn't respond, try to let it go and focus on other friends who do respond. I know this is really hard though.

submitted by MountainSpirit
(April 5, 2020 - 8:58 am)

I know what this is like. I would recommend calling her or writing a letter or email. It could be that she just doesn't text very often. If you can get in touch with her, then maybe talk to her about an easier way to for you to communicate. I hope this helps!     

submitted by Winterblue
(April 6, 2020 - 6:11 pm)

I'd say that I agree with the Admins on this one, someone. People have different ways of communicating. I'm someone who doesn't text back, but also doesn't get texted back. For example, Vyolette and I have been keeping up good correspondence since we met on the CB, but sometimes a week or so goes by in between messages (which is usually my fault). That doesn't mean that we don't want to talk to the other person, it just means that we haven't found time to respond. But on the flip side, I know how frustrating it can be when someone doesn't text you back. You never know if they're ignoring you or if they're genuinely just busy. Have you tried talking to your friend about how you feel when she doesn't reply for a while? Often, just plain old communicating your feelings sets things right again. Perhaps your friend doesn't know that you're upset when they don't text back. I have one last thing to say-- if you tell her how you feel, and she still doesn't text back, I'd say just go for it. Text her again. It doesn't even need to be anything big-- maybe just a meme or something that reminded you of her. If she gets another text, it might prompt her to respond to the first one as well. All in all, I'd say that my biggest piece of advice is to trust your gut. If you want to send her another text, do it! You're never as needy or as lonely as you think you sound. I bet she'll be plenty happy to hear from you. Good luck!

~Starseeker 

submitted by Starseeker, on hiatus (oops)
(April 6, 2020 - 8:53 pm)

I have the same issue, and I honestly don't have any suggestions for you, because I don't know how to fix my problem either. It confuses me because I text her and she doesn't answer, but then we have a grade chat from our school, and when someone texts on it, she answers almost immediately. So I'm just confused, because in person we're totally fine, and when she does text me back she doesn't even seem to notice that we haven't texted in, like, a month. 

submitted by Paraphernalia, age Never, Somewhere
(April 8, 2020 - 2:58 pm)

I think you can text again to remind them that you texted. Like maybe just text a picture, or a question for them, or a thing that made you think of them. It's possible they forgot about your text or it just kind of slipped under the radar for them, and I don't think one more text will make it seem like you don't have friends. 

I get that it's discouraging to text someone multiple times with no response, and I also agree with other people that you should try another method of contacting the friend, but texting this friend one more time is also okay.  

submitted by Applejaguar, Wisteria
(April 13, 2020 - 2:31 pm)