Advice thread! If

Chatterbox: Down to Earth

Advice thread! If

Advice thread! If you have advice for anything, you can post it here! If you need advice, you can tell your problem here (anonymously if you prefer) and others can give you advice!

I have a piece of advice for anyone who likes another CBer. If you like someone at your school and you tell them and they don't like you back and they dont like it that you like them, being with them would be akward. But if you like someone on the CB and they are like no i dont like you that way, you can always change your name.


So even if noone has a problem, you can still post advice


submitted by Cranberry, age 13
(February 14, 2021 - 11:28 am)

I have a crush on a character that I made up. Please help :(

submitted by I'd rather not tell, age 11, NY but not NYC
(February 14, 2021 - 2:54 pm)
submitted by top
(February 15, 2021 - 9:35 am)

Okay GOOD NEWS: I came over this crush.

BAD NEWS: I have made a new one. On a book character. AHHHHHH 

submitted by I'd rather not tell, age 11, NY but not NYC
(February 15, 2021 - 1:18 pm)

Hi, IRNT. Good news: everyone gets crushes on fictional characters occasionally. There is nothing wrong with you. Don't freak out/be embarrassed :)

Also, tip for being anonymous: don't use your same age and name fields; it gives it away. If I posted as "Anonymous, age 12, Atlantis," people would probably know who I was, like I know who you are. But I won't tell :) 

(That was not supposed to be rude. I do hope it didn't come across as such.) 

submitted by Luminescence, age 12, Atlantis
(February 15, 2021 - 3:16 pm)

ok thaaank youuuuuu! I needed that :) 

submitted by I'd rather not tell
(February 15, 2021 - 4:45 pm)

Um... Do I seem cringey and babyish? I try so hard to not seem babyish but I feel like it never works. I prefer being friends with older kids mostly because many ten year olds are stilll making fart jokes and covering there eyes when people kiss. 

submitted by Princess Juniper, age she/her, Nowhere
(February 20, 2021 - 3:57 pm)

I don't think you are at all. If you didn't put your age I would probably guess you were older than ten.

<3 Tealeaf  

submitted by Tealeaf , Steeping
(February 20, 2021 - 8:22 pm)

No, you really don't! I mean, I can tell you're younger than me sometimes, but not in a bad way- you are actually much more mature than any 10 year olds I know, and I love talking to you! :)

submitted by Azalea, age 14, Thinking deep thoughts
(February 21, 2021 - 8:41 am)

I don't think you're babyish at all! I definitely was not as mature as you when I was 10. :)

submitted by peppermint, Pantala
(February 21, 2021 - 10:58 am)

No, not at all! You're so sweet and I genuinely enjoy talking to you! You seem very mature.

submitted by Quill
(February 21, 2021 - 3:34 pm)

Ugh, I can relate. I have three siblings who are in their twenties, and even though they don't mean to, they make me feel really immature. I'm ten years old, and I do feel mature, but sometimes I have doubtful moments like you. Also, some of my peers are like the way you describe other ten year olds in your post, and I feel like I should act like them. 

Sorry, this has turned into a rant on my part. But, Princess Juniper, I think you're pretty cool. <3 

submitted by Star Princess, She/her
(February 26, 2021 - 10:03 am)

Thanks guys. Insecurities are a big thing with me but that helped a lot!! *puts on mask then hugs*

submitted by Princess Juniper, age she/her, Nowhere
(February 21, 2021 - 10:20 am)

I'm going to rant here, so don't get mad, I'm not directing it at you. This will be long, sorry Admins.

I have two different friend groups. The first has a few old friends and their newer friends, and there are a lot of them. They're popular and seemingly perfect. The other group is more normal-ish and consists of four people I met last year. I don't seem to fit in with either of them. The first group only cares about won the Super Bowl, while I want to know if the Chiefs have changed their name yet (it's racist!). The other group I feel I don't know as well, and something happened today that makes me question whether I should try to get closer to them or not.

One of my best friends is in the second group. She's really nice, and helped me through some really hard times last year. She's one of the only people I know who cares about being safe with COVID as much as me. We only see each other outside, and always stay six feet apart. Once, I saw my other friends in a cafe together, without masks, like everything was normal. I tried to smile and act happy as a passed them, but inside I wanted to scream. She was the reason I didn't - there really was someone like me out there. But today, she called and told me one of the worst things ever: she was having a sleepover with someone who was in the same friend group. I would normally be happy for her, but SHE WAS LIKE ME! She gave me gifts across her porch and FaceTimed me when no one else would and was my BEST FRIEND! I may be over-reacting, but it was so, so nice to have someone to lean on when I got envious of everyone else. Doesn't she know that negative COVID tests don't mean that you're definitely negative? Doesn't she know that you could get COIVD seconds after you take the test? Doesn't she know I've taken the test around four times and it was always negative? Doesn't she know I'm even more careful than her, the friend she's seeing has been seeing other friends? Doesn't she know her mom is a teacher? I'm so frustrated and don't know what to do. I assured her I'm not mad, but I'm furious. Not at her, but at everybody. If everyone was careful, this wouldn't be happening. I'm mad at the school. I'm virtual, but they went back when COVID rates were higher than ever. I'm mad at my parents. If they weren't so careful, I would be having fun, planning a sleepover with my friends. But most of all, I'm mad at myself, for caring so much. Why do you have to be so envious? It's just a silly sleepover! Everything would be better if you just stopped caring. I don't know anymore. I feel like I have no friends. I feel like I don't really know anybody in this world, with the exeption of the Chatterbox. I'm just so frustrated.

submitted by AGH
(February 22, 2021 - 11:54 am)

I am not sure if I can help with the first part. I only have a few friends and am never sure how to get closer to them. I might be able to help with the second part.

About the sleepover, if I am understanding correctly, you are frustrated at how your friends aren't being cautious enough. I get it. I was super cautious around the beginning of the pandemic and am still a good amount of cautious about it. What has really changed is how I thought about others.

You are right. They shoudln't be having a sleepover. But that doesn't mean you should shun them. Maybe consider having a talk with your best friend about how it made you feel uncomfortable, but remember not to be too hash -- it was her decision.

Sorry if that didn't help much. I really wish I could help you with the feeling friendless part, but I have to say I am not great with friends myself so . . .

submitted by Feline Fantasy
(February 22, 2021 - 7:38 pm)

Sorry it was so vague, I was caught up in the moment and didn't really look over it to make sure it made sense. I actually did talk with her and to be honest I got kinda carried away and we kinda had a fight but it did work out in the end and your reply made me feel so much better (notice how my name is not in caps anymore haha).

submitted by agh
(February 23, 2021 - 6:43 am)