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Oh my gosh, why can’t people be normal and nice?? For the first time, I actually have a few friends – I had a couple of other friends, but they live in different places, so I don’t get to see them much. The kids I’ve met seem nice, especially one whom we’ll call C; she’s funny and a bit like a CBer, and we have a lot of things in common. But a few days ago, another girl joined us; I’ll call her A. She also seemed nice, but a couple of days after meeting us, it started feeling like she wanted to hang out with me and C separately; for example, I suggested going somewhere all together, but mentioned that I couldn’t go this week, and she announced that her family was going with C’s this Friday! There wasn’t any time limitation for going there, so I can’t imagine that C could only go on Friday or something like that; it was more like A chose that date because she knew I couldn’t go then. A also told me that she and C were chatting online, but despite letting me know, she didn’t invite me to join them, which frankly seems rude. On top of all that, C hasn’t replied to some emails I sent her, despite always answering before. And I think A is also leaving out F, another person from our group. And it’s all very drama-ish and I feel like I’m being left out despite being the one who brought them together and ugh >:///
To be fair, I don’t think C is purposefully trying to leave me out; I think it’s more that A wants to keep us apart so we both pay more attention to her. But still, it’s nOt what I was hoping for and I wish I didn’t have to deal with it all :[
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Ugh that’s the worst, I’m sorry 🙁 I hope it gets resolved soon. Even if they’re not doing it on purpose, being left out is one of the worst feelings. *happy vibes and optional hugs*
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Huh admins I swear I saw my post on here a minute ago and I was like “wow that was so fast!” And now I don’t see it? 🤔
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?? I don’t know which post you mean. I hope you see all now.
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I am soooo sorry to hear that, Amethyst. I can relate to you. When I was in the 4th grade, I had so much drama in my class that I wanted to leave my school. I went to a private, Christian school. Turns out, the girl I was having problems with was just kind of mean. I hope your problems sort out. I have some advice. Try and act like it doesn’t bother you so, they will feel like “Well, if she doesn’t care, we might as well just stop.”
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Aww, thank you <33 Having talked with A a bit more and analyzed her earlier statements, I think she might just be inconsiderate and attention-seeking but hopefully not actually mean or trying to be unfriendly, so for the moment I think I’ll just ignore it and see if anything else develops. Thanks for the vibes and the hugs, WildWolf *hugs back gratefully* @Elizabeth C., that does sound like good advice – I think I’m going to more or less do that. Love y’all /p <3
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I’m sorry that you feel like you’re being left out:( I hope everything resolves soon!
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Thanks so much! I’m feeling a bit more optimistic about it now:)
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So sorry to hear that!
All I can say is that, last year, a similar thing happened to me and the most effective thing I could do was just be extra nice to the person who I thought was in the wrong. Then that person stopped treating me unkindly (possibly out of guilt because I was being nice to her, I don’t know.) anyway, there are no negative consequences to choosing to react with kindness. Also, it drives the other person crazy lol. -
I’m on this thread because I’d like to use it as a sort of advice column thread, less serious than Confessions and mostly focused on friendship troubles? Anyway…
I have been at my school for one school year, and will be there for one more. During my first year, I joined a friend-group of three girls (I’m one too, for context). They are very nice, and have never tried to be mean to me, but I don’t have all that much in common with them. We have different technology situations (I have a smartwatch for communicating with people and I use my mom’s computer to write, go on CB, and browse the internet; they all have phones and have had them for a good long time now, plus social media but they don’t all have the same social media), hobbies (I’m much busier than they are; one of them works for her family business on the weekends and another does theater sometimes, but all intermittently) and attitudes toward school (I like to learn things and they usually don’t; they are very creative and smart in their ways, but not super interested in school).
I’d like to start making friends with other kids; there’s one group that’s mostly composed of (to use a label) nerds like myself, and I think in an ideal world I’d split myself between them and my current group. The group of nerds contains one girl but it’s mostly boys. (It’s looser than my current group, so I won’t give a precise number.) To complicate things, one of these boys is also my crush (his alias will be V). I wouldn’t mind being in a romantic relationship of some sort with him, but I also wouldn’t mind just being friends. He also joined this school (a K-8 where the kids get very close over the years) right before I did, so it might be nice to have a friend with a similar experience. However, my friends are all into dating people and probably want me to date him, so they usually make a fuss (not obvious to other people, but obvious to me) whenever I’m with V.
The girl who’s friends with the nerdy kids (alias A), including V, is also friends with one of the girls in my friend-group. Sometimes A hangs out with us, but another of my current friends will complain sometimes (after she’s gone) and say that she’s not part of our group. A’s friend in our group plans to say something back next time this happens, but I bring this up because the other current friend will complain if I try to mix groups, and also there are no other connections between our two groups.
So, ahead of the upcoming school year, any advice for how I can try to become friends with the nerdy kids while not forsaking my current friends (by this I mean not leaving them more than half the time–I know I can’t always be with both groups without mixing them) would be much appreciated.