Butterfly, you're not alone. We are here for you on the CB. I don't really have much advice for you because I'm bad at advice. I think you should take to a parent, school consuler or other adult about this, I know it might seem hard to do, but they will be able to help you get through this.

I'll be praying for you. <3  

I have the same problem! I don't know why, I thought maybe it had to do with being a 'teenager' but I'm really not sure… I think partly it is because I'm self-conscious and I'm always afraid to mess up. Even on here, when I try to give advice I'm afraid that I will make someone feel worse rather than better. I'm afraid that I don't know enough and that I'm not a good enough friend. I'm too scared to keep a conversation with someone and I don't know what to do about it. I'm afraid I'm gonna mess up. I'm just afraid. 

I hear you, Butterfly. I don't really know what to tell you…but telling us was a good step forward. Maybe try telling an adult, maybe your parents or a teacher? I don't know… I'm too shy to tell my parents and I'm homeschooled… I don't know how to put it into words to tell my friends… Sometimes I feel like the world is amazing…other times I feel like it's on my shoulders and there isn't anyone I can turn to… honestly, when I start thinking like that I try to go on long walks and see the beauty of the world I live in. I don't know if it will help you, but it helps me. Thank you for telling me, Butterfly…I know I'm not alone now, and I hope you do too… just smile, you are a free person and if someone doesn't appreciate that, then they don't deserve you. Just smile, pretty soon you'll find yourself relaxing and fitting in again. It might take a day, a week, a month. I don't know. Life is a work in progress where there is always room to improve. 

I don't know where these words are coming from, or where they're going. I don't know why I'm writing all this… I don't know why I suddenly don't feel as afraid to face the world. I don't know… and that is OK!

You're never alone, Butterfly. Please, always know that you can turn to the people you care about, because they have allowed you to become close to you and they would always want you to ask them for help. It is the way human minds work. And so what if something changes? Like I said, life is a work in progress, and there is always room to improve. You are who you are, Butterfly… and I know that that person is truly amazing.

Go out and meet the world. You don't have anything to hide. You are a great, wonderful magical person. And whoever you meet in this big, wide beautiful world is blessed.

Be strong, and be the beautiful person you are. <3  

Also, maybe try journaling? It might not be for you, but I find that it helps me sort out my thoughts and feelings, and being someone who doesn't really like to share what is deep down inside of me, it is a really good way to let go of my feelings. Good and bad. 

immerse yourself in things and around people that you love. If you love to dance, listen to uplifting music and dance your heart out. If you're afriad that people will see you… that is ok! But always know, that what people think doesn't really truly matter. Not the people who are friends with your friends friends. Sure, what your love ones think matters, but not what your four house down neighbor thinks. Dance your heart out. You'll feel so much better! Do things you love. It will bring you in touch with yourself and make you a happier person. You will glow like the brightest monarch butterfly in the bluest sky. Because that glowing never truly left. It was your confidence…but it is always shinning, somewhere inside of you. I promise.  <3 

yq, I’ve been there. The awkward middle school years are the worst. What I’ve learned is that you just have to push through it, and push down all the wrong feelings. Of course you can’t do that all the time, or else you’d explode, so let all those feelings out through a sport, or activity that you can just let yourself go. Maybe writing or drawing in your case? 

Besides that awful advice, remember that you are perfect the way you are, you shouldn’t change yourself from being, well, you, and to always love yourself. And others. And have close friends, life can get tough without a support, or many supports. 

But we’ll always b here for you, remember that. <3 

First of all, Butterfly, you are loved and you do have friends, even if it doesn't always feel that way. I understand how you feel. Sometimes it can definately be a challenge for me to actually put myself out and try to connect to someone, but I'm starting to realize that people will reach out to you if you encourage them. Try not to think about all the ways something could go wrong or all the ways it could go right- just do it and deal with the outcome as it happens. I find that this tends to make me happier and less stressed afterwards. 

Secondly, you are under no obligations to act how people expect you to. Do what makes you happy. If that's being louder, be loud. It might startle people, but they will quickly learn to accept it. Don't let their initial reactions hurt you- if they are surprised so be it. If being loud makes you happy then be loud. They'll get over it quicker than you might think, I've learned.

People's first impressions of me are of a shy, tiny girl hiding behind her hair. At first I just observe, listening to conversations and doing my work. Eventually I'll see a group that I like and I'll make more of an effort to talk and be noticed. The group will eventually grow to accept me and I'll feel more comfortable around them. That's when I force myself to say the things I am thinking, the things that are more than a little strange. Of course, I do get some comments (Wow, I wasn't expecting that from you.) but if I refuse to retract what I just said or did, I feel more comfortable around the people. Saying the things I'm thinking makes me feel more comfortable and happier, so I try to do that. It is hard at first, but gets easier as I get used to doing it. And I'm happier in the long run.

But if those unhappy feelings don't go away you may want to think about talking to a parent, counselor, or doctor about it. They honestly can help. Even if you just need advice, they'll give it.

People want to help, but you have to let them.

I really hope this helps, Butterfly. Good luck, and I love you. 

Im so sorry Butterfly. I dont know exactly what to say except that Im praying for you, and even if it feels like no one loves you sometimes, the God of the whole world, universe infact, loves YOU! And also, have you tried to talk about it to your parents? It can help alot to notto keep it in. We love you Butterfly!

<3 Tux