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So I was looking back at old threads on CaC, and I found one of these threads from awhile back. All of us here on the CB have problems and many of us share them openly. But sometimes it is easier to share things without even your alias to hold yourself accountable to.
Here is a place to consolidate advise and the asking of it. You don't have to go anonymously, but you may if you want to. There are no rules other than those that apply to the CB in general. Keep in mind this is not a SI-- the point is not to figure who other people are but to give them real advice. Be polite and try to be as concise and as helpful as you can.
I am having trouble starting conversations with people I don't know very well. Do you have any tips for making friends with people, even if they are in cliques? (not quite sure how to spell that). Also, what are some good conversation starters?
Ask a question. This shows that you're interested in the other person. Try a question that has to do with whatever activity you're gathered for. Do you play a musical instrument? How did you meet so-and-so? How long have you lived in this town? Do you like all this snow?
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submitted by Pseudonym
(April 10, 2016 - 1:59 pm)
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Use what you know about the person. For example, if you saw that person's name on the list of bookworm challenge winners, ask them if they have read a certain book! If you know they are in the Drawing club, ask them to teach you to draw something!
(April 10, 2016 - 2:51 pm)
Admin is right, Pseudonym; questions make great conversation starters. It's always good to find a mutual interest you can always come back to. Try talking about books or art or movies or sports or any other common interest you can think of!
Often this will work and you will make a new friend. But if it doesn't, don't be discouraged. At least you can say you tried! Also, don't be afraid to talk to someone of a different gender or age.
I have been having trouble keeping my desk/room organized recently (as always!) Any tips?
(April 10, 2016 - 3:00 pm)
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I hurt someone a while ago by accusing them of something that I'm starting to think was false. Any advice on how to apologize, or what to say in my apology?
(April 10, 2016 - 3:09 pm)
@ A Nonny Mouse, when you apologize, don't start out by saying "You did this." Don't try to explain yourself or make yourself look good. Humble yourself. Sincerely say that you are very sorry, and that you were wrong. It might help to write this in a letter to them instead of telling them face to face.
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Why is it that anything I post on today disappears???
It may have gone to a back page. Look there.
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Thank you so much, @Admin, CherryBlossom, and Shoshanna.
@A Nonny Mouse-- I don't know if I could be of any help. I haven't really been in a situation specifically like that. Could you give me some more details? How well do you know the person? How long ago did you accuse them?
@Shoshanna-- I have that problem too :P
Speaking of apologizing, I know a girl, let's call her Chloe, and I think she thinks I've been being mean to her. I haven't been doing anything mean, exactly-- it's more like what I've not been doing that matters to her. At times I have been kind of negligent and not as caring as I should have been when she didn't have anyone to talk to. And I think I unthinkly hurt her because of that... but I can't know for sure. How can I apologize and show her that I really like and appreciate her and want to be good friends with her? She is a relatively new acquaintance.
(April 10, 2016 - 7:40 pm)
So, there's this guy, right? Let's call him A.S. And he hurt me, really bad. Like, he threatened me and stuff. And it was very bad. Traumatizing, even. And I've started to think that maybe he didn't hurt me as badly as I had thought he did, and I don't know how to apologize to him.
(April 11, 2016 - 8:11 am)
@ Pseudonym, I've been in Chloe's situation before. The best thing to do would be to apologize and to tell her that you weren't trying to neglect her, and tell her that you hope to become better friends with her. Also, if it's true, tell her that she's just as important to you as your other friends or activities that caused you to neglect her. Invite her to hang out with you or to have a sleepover or something.
(April 13, 2016 - 9:20 am)