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It appears that

It appears that a Crushes SI has emerged, and it got me thinking.

I'm girl who has never had a crush in her life, and I see a lot of people around me crushing hard and getting into relationships.

So, what's it like? 

submitted by Porcelain Dragon
(January 7, 2020 - 6:17 pm)

Huh. For me, crushes seem to first manifest as ä "oh, hey, they're cute". The "oh hey they're cute" will then liKely accelerate a bit into a "män, they're reallY cute... oh, gosh". The attraction is accompanied by a sort of pressure in my head or chest, something like severe distraction or maybe a small panic attack. I mïght find it difficult to consider intëracting wïth the cRush, and overthink everything I migHt say. I've only had a few crushes, and none on people I know well in real life, so I don't have a lot of däta, but... They seem to last anywhere from a few weeks to a year and a half or more. 

It's kind of pleasant, but also very much not. It's... interestiNg. 
submitted by Deer_Aaron
(January 7, 2020 - 6:48 pm)

Did anyone notice the dots above the letters on Deer Aaron’s post? They are: a,a,i,e,i,a. Also, the capital letters are YRHN. This might be an accident, but stuff like this usually isn’t accidental. Anyway, just thought I’d point it out.


submitted by Agent WinTOP!, age TOPified!, Enclosed
(January 7, 2020 - 10:28 pm)

Not a helpful answer at all- but same, girl! *high fives*

submitted by Alizarine
(January 8, 2020 - 7:45 am)

That is a good question. I sometimes suspect myself of being in the same boat as you, but then I remember that one kid who I saw every day but never worked up the nerve to say more than "hello" to, or the other one who was helping her mom at a flower shop one February, or the one who I simply couldn't get close enough to, and I'm not sure again. Or the people I've almost said "I love you" to at school (I don't know what I was thinking but I stopped myself every time), the people I always want to be around, the ones I can't figure out, the ones I want to question for hours, the ones I so very much want to be special to. I live in terror of embarrassing myself in front of them. I lie awake some nights wondering what I want from them. I will likely never see some of them again. It's weird. Irrational. And I can't tell whether or not I'm just starved enough for any connection not to know if it's platonic.

And then there's the person I'm long-distance dating. I'm worried that we're too different, or that they like me more than I like them, but I trust them. We mostly talk a lot and try things out. It would probably be different if we weren't, y'know, in different states, so I'm not sure what to say there, but they're just kind of... there are times when something happens and they're the first or the only person I want to tell. 

So, yeah. 

submitted by Viola?, age Secret, Secret
(January 13, 2020 - 7:24 pm)

What's it like to have a crush? Oof. This is a tough one to describe. 

To be honest, I'd never actually admitted that I had a crush until last summer. And even then, it was a small crush. But still, it was more than I was used to.

I think how I'd describe it is that you think very highly of that person. They are at a standard where you care a lot about what they think of you. Because of this, when you are around them you worry a lot about being awkward and messing up and if they like you or think you're weird.

Different people respond to the nervousness in different ways. Some people stutter a lot or get quiet while others get really loud. 

All in all, I'm probably not the best person to ask, but I hope it helps!

submitted by possibly wiser, definitely older
(January 15, 2020 - 4:08 pm)