Writing Help

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Writing Help

Writing Help

I hate having to make this post.

I am writing a story for school (I'll post the edited draft on here) and in the story, a character finds out his boss, whom he was very close with, has died. I'm also writing in the POV of the person who tells him the news (Third Person Omnisecent) but I have never been in grief nor dealt with someone in grief, so I need some help.

What is it like being in grief (the first stage) and what is it like dealing with someone in the first stage? Or, do you have any tips on writing these types of characters.You don't have to answer this if you're uncomfortable. Thank you so much if you do.

submitted by Ella Starburst, Forever Imagining
(September 9, 2019 - 8:46 am)

Well, to make it really easy, I divide it into times of day.

Dawn - The train hits. Senses are blurred, and breathing hurts.

Morning - If you don't know what happened or how they died, your head begins to feel with situations and speculations. If you do know/after a while, a thick silence seems to engulf your brain. You become almost autonomous, and all you can think of is 'Why?' Your mind is seemingly ripped out of your body.

Afternoon - Life begins to resume. You come to terms with the inevitable. The silence lifts, your body is reconnected with your mind.

Dusk - All that's left is a lingering sorrow.

Night - The lingering sorrow is replaced with the fond memories of the person who died. Life carries on, but you've changed 


This may not be too accurate, but it's what I've seen it as. 

submitted by Rogue Wildling
(September 10, 2019 - 1:18 am)

Thanks Rogue, this really helps! Huh?

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Aw, Ted and Frank thank you too! 

submitted by Ella Starburst, Forever Imagining
(September 10, 2019 - 12:48 pm)
submitted by Bop to the TOP!!
(September 10, 2019 - 8:33 am)

Grief- a normal part of nature everyone deals with but at the same it hurts so much and I wish nobody had to deal with it. 

Well, it honestly depends on the person and how they deal with it. Some will compleatly shut down, hide all their emotions, fake a smile, go on doing normal life without coming to terms what really happened. Others might call it insensitive, but they honestly just can't deal with the pain and will when they're ready or they just had enough and breaks down. Others will become depressed, you can also develope ptsd from a death, so it can increase anxiety and nightmares and amount of sleep. Some deal with grief very healthily like what rogue discribed- crying andk feeling empty and then eventually moving on. Again, the way people show grief depends mostly on their personality. It can be very hard and a lot of work dealing with someone in the first stage, especailly if you're suffering from the grief too and just don't know what to do.  

submitted by Claaws, Roar
(September 15, 2019 - 8:11 pm)