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urgent friend advice needed!!

 

hi everyone,

I’m going through some friendship issues and I’d really like some advice. My best friend since 5th grade invited all our friends (and a bunch of others) to her birthday party last weekend except for me and it felt super out-of-the-blue. I’m really confused about why she did that to me, especially because she’s never done anything like this before. 

 

We’re starting at different high schools this year and I was really really hoping we could stay in touch and still be friends, and I’m really hurt that she did that because I truly thought she wanted to stay good friends too. ): Honestly IDK if I even want to stay as close to her anymore and that feels really sad because I cared about our friendship a lot and always assumed she did too…

 

Does anyone have any idea why might’ve done this (or any advice about what to do about her)?? We’re starting school soon and I’m not sure at all what to do so thx in advance to everyone who replies <3

 

(staying anon cause i feel more comfortable with that)

submitted by anon, age ?, somewhere
(August 13, 2023 - 11:31 am)

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I think you need to talk to her. Wondering why she didn't invite you will only make you feel worse. Communication and openness is a key thing in friendships. This might be a big misunderstanding, and for your sake I really hope it is.

Though to be honest, I'm not 100% sure because straight up asking her might put you both in an uncomfortable position. But you already seem to be in one anyway, so you might want to try talking to her.

Also: how do you know this? Did a reliable source tell you you weren't invited to the party? It could've just been someone trying to spread drama.

I hope this problem can be cleared up for you soon. 

submitted by Periwinkle, age Pi, Somewhere in the stars
(August 13, 2023 - 3:55 pm)

Thanks, that was super nice of you, and those were all really good points, especially the 3rd one 

I think it was a reliable source though :(

submitted by anon
(August 13, 2023 - 10:05 pm)
submitted by Top
(August 13, 2023 - 4:36 pm)

I'm... sorry. That sounds terrible. I don't have any advice, unfortunatly, but *virtual hug*

I hope someone comes along with advice for you soon. This has never happened to me, but I'm kind of fearing that it is going to happen soon. 

submitted by Hawkstar
(August 13, 2023 - 8:06 pm)

Thank you and hope nothing like this happens to you <3

submitted by anon
(August 13, 2023 - 8:40 pm)

To sort of restate what Peri said, I agree that it could be a misunderstanding. Whenever I start worrying about something a friend did and what it might mean, I remember that there are hundreds of reasons why people do what they do, and they're not always bad reasons. For example, if a friend doesn't respond to an email you sent for months, that doesn't neccessarily mean that they don't like you and decided not to respond. It could be because they're busy, they didn't see the email, etc. So yes, I'd definitely suggest talking to your friend (like Peri said). Best of luck! 

submitted by Lyric, age Excluded, first day of highschool
(August 14, 2023 - 7:28 pm)

Thank you!! :) 

submitted by anon
(August 14, 2023 - 9:42 pm)
Soooo I’ve got an update (thx for all the advice to talk to her cause it definitely was helpful) but IDK if my situation really got better :(
My best friend and I went for a walk yesterday and I asked her about the party. It was super awkward but basically it turns out that someone WAS creating drama. We’ll call the drama-maker B. B went to middle school with us. B’s known for creating lots of drama at our school, like ALOT, so I’ve always kept my distance from B. I haven’t been involved in any of the drama, at least till now. :(((( B also lives really really close to my best friend, and turns out they started hanging out a lot this summer. Anyway, basically B made up some lies about me and told them to my best friend. My best friend said sorry to me but she still seemed super confused about what to believe. I’m really sad that my friend believed B, especially cause B was just an aqcuaintance, and also cause I thought she trusted me and we’ve known each other for so long. :(
Anyone have any advice about what to do now? thx everybody, it’s always so great to have the CB even when I’m having some issues with IRL friends <3
submitted by anon ~updating~, age ?, somewhere
(August 16, 2023 - 1:45 pm)

That's terrible and hope things get better soon!! <3 <3

Sorry, I honestly don't have any advice for you but hopefully some other ppl do! 

submitted by CelineBurning Bright, age As Needed, The FireMist Sea
(August 16, 2023 - 3:27 pm)

Thank you!!

submitted by anon ~updating~
(August 17, 2023 - 12:02 pm)