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HELP MEEEE!!!
HELP MEEEE!!!
AHHHH! I need the CBer's help!! There is this really annoying boy who I sit next to in band (not by choice!), I'll call him Frank. Well, I had to sit next to Frank last year, too, because we're in the same section (flutes). Last year he annoyed me, but this year, I just can't stand him!! He is constantly poking my and kicking me. I tell him to keep his hands off of me and that I am dead serious, but he just keeps touching me. He never moves over, even though the three other people in the row with me and I have no room. He teases me all the time! He is really negavitve and puts me down when I make mistakes. He keeps poking buttons on my flute while I'm trying to play and just won't leave me alone, no matter what I do! I really don't want to seem like a tattletale, but I've really been thinking about talking to my band director. I don't know what to do! Help me! 
I would tell the band director just what you've said here, Emma. Good luck!
Old Cricket
submitted by Emma O, age 13, OR
(December 15, 2009 - 10:28 pm)
(December 15, 2009 - 10:28 pm)
I agree with lav and OC.
(December 17, 2009 - 3:33 pm)
Thanks, guys! :) You all rock! I have considered the flute-on-the-head idea many times. Oh, and I can't move away because he's seventh chair flute and I'm eighth, so we have to sit near each other. My mom and I both agree he has a major crush, but I don't see why being so horrible would get me to like him...
(December 18, 2009 - 1:02 am)
Well, I would say that you should probably do what Old Cricket says. Frankly I am not sure whether it means he likes you or not, it might, but (don't sue me if you try this and it doesn't work) you could say something to the girl sitting on the other side of you, loud enough for him to hear, about how boys are bothersome to girls they like.
Whether it's true or not, he might reallize something about the impression he is giving.
(December 17, 2009 - 11:59 pm)
If ignoring doesn't work, look him straight in they eye and say in a calm yet totally serious voice, "Stop it NOW or I will go call Mr./Ms._____ (band director.)" Then it is very important to say, "Am I clear?" or "Am I understood?" Make him give you an answer. Don't just let him shrug and turn away. You must stare at him very intensely when you do this; it is very intimidating. And if all fails, whack him over the head. Hope this helps!!!
(December 18, 2009 - 6:42 am)
Emma I would deffinately tell the director. Ask him if you can switch a few seats over. (of course still in the flute section) I had the same problem last year.
P.S. I play flute too! It rocks!
(December 19, 2009 - 7:08 am)
If I were you I'd probably just kick him back and say something clever. Maybe if you talk to him he will stop. Act like he's your friend and see what happens. Or, say "Frank, if you annoy me today, my flute is going to end up down your esophagus." And then actually do that if he annoys you. Just act fierce. He definitely has a huge crush on you.
(December 19, 2009 - 9:19 am)
Old Cricket is exactly right.
(December 19, 2009 - 10:42 am)
Can't move seats. We sit in chair order (first chair, then second chair, then third, etc.) (in order to place us in chair order, we did a big chromatic scale, two octave, test, and then my band director (Mr. Nelson) placed from best (first) to worst (ninth) and he ended up by me. Grrrr. He kept poking my flute and me one day and I looked at him and said "Frank, do not touch me or my flute!!! I'm am this close to going and talking to Mr. Nelson! Keep your hands off!!!" and he just looked at me and said. "Ooooh. Seems like somebody's angry!!!" in a super-annoying-sarcastic way. I've tried being nice to him, I've tried being very direct, I've tried everything! Well, at least I get two weeks away from him during Christmas break! I feel kinda bad for him sometimes, because he's so insecure, but then her acts like a brat, and the pity is gone! *sigh*
(December 21, 2009 - 3:39 pm)
I'm sorry to say it, Emma, but I think that at some point you're probably going to have a crush on him. I'm an expert at this stuff (having fallen in love in the seventh grade, very young) and I think that that is probably going to happen. Just on a note, my code says vine. Maybe it's vegetarian. ;-)
(December 23, 2009 - 1:09 pm)
You REALLY need to tell the Band Leader. I know you don't want to tattle, but that's not tattling. That's putting an end to something that NEEDS to have an end put on it!
(December 23, 2009 - 11:00 pm)
I think the idea of turning around to another girl and making a comment about how he must like you, or just muttering it under your breath (but loud enough so he can hear) definitely has merit. Other than that, ignoring people actually does work, or at least ignoring them until you just can't take it any more and then making it VERY CLEAR that you don't like it when they do that (as in hitting them over the head with something). I know because that's what I did with my brother, and he doesn't annoy me any more (besides just following me around and talking to me when it's clear I'm not listening...different story though...)
And why risk messing up your flute when you have a music stand? Your school has the nice heavy kind, right?
(December 24, 2009 - 4:33 pm)
*laughs uproariously* No no no, Falmiriel, that's not the kind of lesson we're supposed to teach her!!! *gleeful* That's seriously hilarious, though. (Ha, what a contradiction)
(December 24, 2009 - 7:47 pm)
*laughs until she cries* Yeah! Nice heavy kind!! That would work very well!! You know, he broke a stand once on purpose and the director never even found out! Oh, and hit me in the back of the neck with a stand last year! And . . . *rambles on and on*
(December 29, 2009 - 12:28 pm)