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submitted by Anonymous, age x, x
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)
You lots in common with us, Reuby! You're a great writer and artist, and you're funny too. I would love to read more of your story, The Aurora Bear, if you posted more! And if you ever need someone to talk to, we can start a thread together if you would like. I would love to get to know you more!
(April 2, 2022 - 9:36 am)
This isn't a huge confession but I'm not a new CBer. I changed my name from like duck i think? I've had multiple names on the CB so I'm honestly not sure who I was last. (is that bad?) Whoops.
(April 1, 2022 - 8:45 pm)
Whenever I go to put something on that I wish would make me feel "pretty" I look in the mirror and immediately take it off. My reasoning is just that I don't like the way I look either way. Like, I have moments of confidence, but usually not when I need them. And so maybe if I don't put that stuff on then I won't look like I'm putting effort into my appearance, so the reason I don't look good isn't because I'm ugly, it's just because I don't care? And also, I have zero trust in my ability to pair an outfit, so the same logic works there. That's why I never wear earrings, accessories, etc. I also like wearing dresses but I don't own any, and I won't wear them anywhere because of the reasons listed.
Does anybody else do that putting on/taking off thing? Or even just use the "I'd rather look like I don't care than like I don't know how to make it look like I care" logic? I might be the only one, idk...
(April 3, 2022 - 4:23 pm)
but there's something you should understand- you aren't "ugly". Don't say that about yourself. Everyone is unique and that's what makes us special. I've struggled w/ self-esteem for a long time, and its about accepting who you are- and being excited about it!
(April 4, 2022 - 5:13 pm)
I don't know how to do that :(
(April 4, 2022 - 8:49 pm)
Hey, I don't blame you! In our modern world filled with awful ideas of what it means to be beautiful, it can be hard to feel like you are pretty or good enough. However, I think everyone should feel like they can wear what they want and are able to express themselves, which is why I'm telling you that I think you might seek help. Talking to an adult or even a counselor/therapist about your feelings will help them get out of your head. I know that's tricky and even scary, but I also believe in you. In the meantime, I have a challenge for you: get rid of the mirror! Or at least don't look in it. Put on something you like, not just because you hope it will make you look pretty but because you actually want to wear it, and don't look in the mirror to see how it looks. Just... Believe in yourself. If you can do that, well, I'd say you're at least halfway there. Good luck! Remember you are beautiful just the way you are!
(April 5, 2022 - 7:12 am)
Hey there! I totally understand what you're saying, I go through the same thing in a daily basis and it really can be frustrating. I basically cycle through a couple of outfits every week and I feel like it's not good enough or something along those lines. What I do to try and make it seem less disheartening is that when I look at other people, I'm not judging them or their clothing, so why would people be judging me? Also, I like to remind myself that everyone is so wrapped up in what they look like that they don't often notice that much about the people around them. Overall, though, just remember that you are totally unique and no one looks or dresses like you do, and that makes you beautiful.
(April 5, 2022 - 9:46 am)
Thank you, everyone. This really does help.
(April 6, 2022 - 6:04 pm)
Ok, so we officially ended it (again) the other day after a brief reconciliation (yea, I was lonely, and obviously didn't last long, seeing that I'm complaining again :p) BUT SHE WON'T STOP FLIRTING AND I'M DYING-
Like, gurl, stop sending mixed messages, you can't just do that!! It's one thing if it's just a wishy-washy, will-they won't-they thing, but it's not! SHE cheated, then I eventually gave in after her BEGGING, and then within a couple of days SHE THE SAME THING. WITH THE SAME PERSON. And then she's SURPRISED when I'm not all buddy-buddy with her and reciprocating and all that and-
Agh. >:P
That's wasn't the best-explained, but oh well. I'm just... Something. Really something. I don't know. I was finally recovering thoughhhhhhhh... TAT gurllllll, whyyyyyyy
(April 4, 2022 - 1:13 pm)
Oh man. That is... very not cool of her. I gotta say, though, you're doing great. It's okay to be lonely, and to still like her, and I'm proud of you for ending things the way you did. You're doing the right thing. (I think you know that, but still.) Honestly, though, I can't really give you any advice, because of my complete lack of romantic knowledge (proud AroAce over here.) So just... hang in there. You're doing great.
(April 4, 2022 - 8:56 pm)
Ooh, really? I'm definitely ace, but I've sorta been trying to find out the romantic part. Like... I'm somewhere between aro and pan??? Just definitely not 'straight'... My introverted tendencies are beckoning me back into this shadows after this whole debacle, though. *sigh* It may take but a while longer for the mist to clear.
(In consideration of that first part, have a theory that there are different levels of 'like's, or maybe more like reasons, kinda? Obviously there's the romantic kind, then there's the more 'mature' kind and then there's the aesthetic kind -- the last not necessarily being aesthetic in just appearances, but also the other senses. Now that I think about it, it may just be platonic + a bonus artistic-ness... Hmmm, I really can't be sure. :/)
Anyway, lol, that's cool. And again, thank you for sticking with me through all of this chaos! Love ya <3
(April 5, 2022 - 2:36 am)
You're actually the first ace person I've met (besides myself, of course), so that's cool! Also, consider that you could be one of the other identities on the aromantic spectrum (grayromantic, demiromantic, lithromantic, etc.). You might've already done that, but still :). And as for sticking with you through the craziness, craziness is pretty much my life. Plus, if we met irl, I'm pretty sure we'd be best friends :) Love ya too <3
(April 5, 2022 - 5:46 pm)
That's insane. I honestly don't understand why people would do that type of thing. It makes everyone unhappy.
(April 4, 2022 - 11:46 pm)
Anyone mind if I rant?
Im in a musical. And I've had rehearsals the past few days and the play is today, tomorrow, and Friday. I have been having INTENSE mood swings lately, so I feel needy and negative. I have this friend, and since he's the other Tweedle Dee (I'm the first one), I'll call him Dee. I feel bad for him. I don't know why i decided to kinda text him about my stage fright, since I never get it I felt like I was dying. He seemed kind of annoyed since I was bugging him about it but gave me a motivational speech and some hugs. Anyways, I've been sensitive from mood swings the past few days and have been apologizing for something every day. I don't know if I need to stop overthinking, apologizing, or try to be more positive? Stop bugging him? I don't know how, though. Any advice?
Second thing: there's this mean kid, and I have his phone number. Anyways we text argue and we argue in person about whether the carrot emoji is a carrot or pizza. He's mean to some other ppl though. He's friends with Dee but kind of hurt him today. Dee was laughing so it seemed like a joke but he said it hurt. I didn't know what to do. I kinda shoved the boy away but I didn't know what to do. Anyone know what I should do?
Also- I think I'm annoying. I had this friend, we'll call him Squidward. And then I annoyed him. Not on purpose, and it was as a joke. But now he hates me. He avoids me and it kinda hurts since like he was my friend... and that's what I'm worried about happening with Dee too. I can't sleep at all cuz of this stuff. Help??
(April 28, 2022 - 1:29 am)
(April 28, 2022 - 9:05 pm)