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submitted by Anonymous, age x, x
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)

Whenever i have a crush on someone i feel like I'm not good enough for them. Not good-looking enough, not kind enough, not cool enough, not enough.

this gets to the point where i feel scared to talk to this person, because I could screw something up or be impolite or something.  

submitted by Anon_Lovebug
(February 13, 2022 - 12:19 pm)

Same! It's like they're awesome and there's definitely someone better out there for them so you don't want to go put yourself out there since they can be happyer with someone else and you're not enough anyway.

submitted by someone anonymous
(February 13, 2022 - 1:00 pm)

i have a friend and we've been pretty good friends since 3rd grade and we got to know each other even better in 5th grade and we're best friends now and she helped me figure so much about myself but now I feel like we're kind of drifting apart and I'm being replaced? We only have 1 class together and we don't really get to talk in that class, and whenever we do talk I can never think of anything to say. And the other day we got a sort of recess thing that happens once every 4 1/2 weeks and I met up with her, and it was fun, but I mostly just followed her around while she talked to her other friends. It all sort of started when she got a girlfriend and started talking to her instead of me- know now that I'm involving other people in the story I'll give them letter-names, my friend is m, her [former] girlfriend is T, and E will soon be mentioned. Anyways I was ok with m spending time with t. But then they broke up and all of a sudden she hates t. But now she spends almost all her time with E, who's in a bunch of her classes. At that recess thing, all we did was follow e around. E got hit in the face with a basketball, and M rushed off to take her to the nurse without even telling me, so I was left wondering whether I should go to my next class or wait for M because I didn't know where she went. Then I had a sleepover with m that night and it was fun, but she kept talking about how excited she was for E's birthday party and just e, e, e, e. I know she's not doing it on purpose. She even introduced me to E and would like it if we were friends but I'm not good at not being awkward and E probably thought I was weird which I am and we don't have any classes together anyways. But I just hate the thought of losing M, because I don't have anyone else I can trust as much as her. I have other friends but I don't know them as well. It's just so weird because I thought we were going to be best friends forever but now suddenly she has so many new friends that are a million times cooler and less awkward than me. I guess I could tell her, and I'm sure she'd try to understand, but that would be hard.. I don't know.

submitted by youdontknowme
(February 13, 2022 - 3:46 pm)

That sounds sorta scary, and I don't know if (1 you wanted advice or if you just wanted to rant (2 the following advice is going to be any help at all, but I just want to say something. Maybe you could at least try to make friends with E? That will be hard because they aren't in your classes, but maybe at that recess thing you could try finding something you, E, and M all have in common. That way, you won't lose M and you'll gain a friend in E. And don't worry so much about E thinking you're weird! Everyone feels awkward when they're meeting new people. I bet even the Queen of England does! Just be yourself.

submitted by Periwinkle, age Pi, Somewhere in the stars
(February 13, 2022 - 7:49 pm)

I... really need some advice.

School is a whole popularity contest. And that's not just for the entire school, it's for friend groups, too.

The people I eat lunch with are pretty tight. Except me. I feel like I'm being used just to help with homework. On Friday, two of the girls who sit there gave everyone a valentine. Except me.

I've always been the weird kid. I've never been even close to good looking, and I'm really annoying. Like a smart Alek mixed with a captain obvious. And I want to be prettier and cooler and... fit in. I try but I can't. And most people say just to be yourself but being myself makes people like me less. 

My two best friends aren't the most popular, but they both have way more friends than me. And plus they're both really pretty. They're definitely up there on the popular scale.

Im way down at the bottom of the popular scale. I only have one friend who I ever really talk to about these things, and he's a boy. Which feels weird, that my close friends and I don't... confide in each other like that.

*embarassed* so... yeah. Any advice?

-unpopular chipmunk  

 

Friendships can be hard, especially when they can feel like a popularity contest. Remember that these situations are temporary, and even though it doesn't make them less painful, you will continue to grow, your friends will continue to grow, and you will find people in your life who accept you just the way you are. - Admin

submitted by unpopular chipmunk
(February 14, 2022 - 2:30 pm)

Hi there! I'm not the best at these kinds of talks, but I'll try my best :)

I've definitely been in that situation, thinking that I'm not popular or pretty enough. I still kind of am, honestly. I know that it's always going to be difficult to see myself in a positive light, but I try anyway. I have a friend who has expressed those feelings to me (not popular enough, thinks the other people in the group are annoyed by him), and once he even mentioned leaving our group because he didn't think we wanted him around. And I was shocked because that is totally NOT true and we all love him and would never want him to leave. My point is, you may feel like your friends don't appreciate you, but I think that they do but are not the best at portraying it. I would also like to say that your friends also have insecurities about themselves and most likely envy some of your traits; after all, you're unique and no one is exactly like you. 

I think its important to know that all friendships are different. For example, I have a best friend that I can text my randomest, wierdest thoughts and rants to without second thought, but I have another friend who I talk to about deeper things- he's a boy, so that's something we have in common. Some friends I just like goofing around with, and I'm happy with that too. So don't feel wierd about not taking to some people about certain things; only talk to who you are comfortable with.

Friendships are meant to change and evolve, and that's ok. I only ask that you give yourself more credit for the (many) good qualities about yourself and keep in mind that the people around you care more then might meet the eye. 

I hope this helps <333 (sorry for any typos i'm in class rn typing on my phone under the desk:p) 

submitted by Silver@chipmunk
(February 15, 2022 - 11:18 am)

Wowo, that is so terrible! I have some advice!

 

 

If you think you're being used by the people you sit with at lunch, you might want to ditch them. If they can't see you for the great person you are, you're better off without them. Also, quit thinking you're annoying! It's okay to be smart, and although looks aren't everything, you're beautiful. You don't have to be prettier or cooler. I know you said that being yourself makes people like  you less, but you also said you have two best friends, and a friend who you talk to about this kind of stuff, which means there are at least three people who do like you--that you know of. So embrace yourself! 

 

 

I think you should lean more into the friendship with the boy. Someone you can confide in is usually a good friend. And if you think that you don't do that with your close friends, then maybe that means he's a close friend, and that's cool too--you're actually gaining a friend in this situation. And your two best friends, no matter how pretty or popular they are, should like you for you if they are so close, so don't worry too much about that, okay? All in all, just be who you are and don't listen to the people who can't accept that. Easier said than done, I know, but just try. Trying to feel good about yourself is a lot better than just feeling bad about yourself, I think.

 

 

 

submitted by Periwinkle, age Pi, Somewhere in the stars
(February 15, 2022 - 4:05 pm)

First I'd like to say I'd really wish I was Smart Alek. All my favorite charctars in books are smart alek. It's like being a mixture of sarcastic, funny, and smart. 

My older brother's having trouble at school to. All the boys are supposted to be tough and good at sports. But he dosen't like sports. Kids make fun of him for liking robotics. My sister used to be made fun of for being smart. 

I think one thing people don't really see is being pretty isn't everything, it annoys me. Really, everyone has there own version of pretty. I think having brown hair and freckles is pretty. Some may think diffrently. Just know in some contry, in someones mind. You are there version of beautiful. 

I'm a bit of tomboy, and I don't like playing with the girls because they're always talking about doing there nails. Except two of my good friends. Most of my friends are boys, and I talk to them about everything. What this school needs to change, how mean the 7th graders are to us, ect. Some of the girls think it's weird, but there not my friends. Why should I care?

It feels bad to be used. If I were you, I'd leave. People like that aren't worth spending time with.  

I know the sorta things teachers say. Talk to a grownup, ask them to stop, ignore them, be yourself. None of those ever work. It seems like sometimes you will never be good enough. At my school people tease you for being dumb at math. I'm not that good and whenever I get an easy problem right everybody applauds. I know they're just joking but it still hurts. I want to be scientist when I grow up but sientist do a lot of math and I'm not good at it. 

As long as you have one good friend, you don't need anybody else. 

Also a little quote my sister's friend told me: If 99% of the world dosen't like you.,Then 7.7 million people still do.  

 

submitted by Octopus, age Unknown, The Moon
(February 16, 2022 - 7:46 pm)

Thank you all so much for the advice! It feels amazing to know you guys support me and want to help <3 Things still aren't great, but I'm gonna start using what you guys told me. Thank you guys so much <3

-unpopular chipmunk 

submitted by unpopular chipmunk
(February 20, 2022 - 11:21 am)

Hello, people, porcupines, and various peculiar pieces of pie,

I have not seen my crush in two years. Recently I asked, in a roundabout way, if I could have either his or his sister's email. I got his sister's, which I'm really happy about, because she's my friend and I was out of contact with her for years as well. BUT I kinda wanted both! And STILL DO! But I don't want anyone to suspect that I like him! Any advice?

 

p.s. I also got a photo of him! AGH! LUCKY! *puts as desktop photo*  But no email. 

submitted by Anonymous, Not the Thread Poster
(February 15, 2022 - 7:02 pm)

Maybe just ask for his email? She may not expect anything.

Or maybe try to ask for it without actaully saying it directly. I'm not exactly sure how you do that but I'm sure you can think of something!

submitted by Marty, age 12 now, Virgnia
(February 16, 2022 - 6:42 pm)

I read sappy fanfictions, and I do mean sappy. The kind with bad grammar, endless dithering about whether you like them or not, all that. Mostly texting story KiriBaku fanfictions. My YouTube history is rather cursed in that regard. I've also written a couple myself. 

submitted by Suneater
(February 18, 2022 - 3:26 pm)

...I have depression.. mostly with my art. I dont think my art is good enough to be shown to the public..looking at other peoples art or watching anime makes it worse, but i still do that anyway

submitted by Reuby Moonnight, age 11 Nebulas, Luantaria
(February 19, 2022 - 2:45 pm)

I totally get that; it's tough to see so many amazing works by others, and then turn around and compare it to your own work -- only to be disappointed. 

However, I also think it would helpful to remember that everyone has something unique to bring to the table, and only by practicing and experimenting with your own style can you truly come into your own and contribute with your full potential.

For instance, instead of seeing professional art by whole teams of artists, or art that has taken hours even with several years of practice, and saying 'Wow, my art is terrible compared to this...' simply admire and take note of what you like about it. How can you learn from this experience? Is it something you may want to try with you own own work? Or is there a specific element you want to see more of for reference?

And remember your limitations! You're just one person, and only have so many years of experience! You'll have plenty of time to refine and improve as you get older and gain more experience -- if you only give yourself that chance. So don't put yourself down! Embrace what you have to offer, and don't hesitate to contribute the the community that you admire so much!

Good luck, and I hope you can start feeling more comfortable with your art soon! I think you have a perfectly lovely and cute style, personally.

 

submitted by Jaybells, age Obscure, Lost in the Universe
(February 20, 2022 - 3:34 am)

Thank you Jaybells, no one has ever said that to me

submitted by Reuby Moonnight, age 11 Nebulas, Luantaria
(February 21, 2022 - 11:11 am)