I think you can definitely be female and still feel okay with being referred to as "they". I feel that way myself - "they" feels more ambiguous, but it doesn't necessarily insinuate that you're anything but female, considering that it's often used when someone's gender isn't known. Idk, those're my thoughts on it.

I feel the same way- I'm female, and back when my hair was weird and short-ish I was carrying out some older guy's groceries at the store I work at and he called me "he" and I just didn't bother to correct him because I didn't care.

I can relate to one of the above comments as well, the one about names. I've never felt as though I had the right name. Every time it's said my brain is like "oh wait yeah, that's me". Only I don't have any way to change it, and I don't have any nicknames to be used in place of it. My name, which I figure I can put down here and remain anon because I've never done a Real Name SI with it, is Adeline, pronounced ad-uh-lyne. Not ad-uh-leen. It sounds clunky and awkward. I should've had a short name. I'm not a fancy old-fashioned-name person.

I'm not feminine, either. It's a very feminine name. I'm not that sort of person, and I don't get treated as such often, but if I do I feel as though it's my name's fault. It's really just kind of annoying...

That's perfectly fine.

You don't have to squeeze yourself and your identity into a neat little box, just because that's what the world wants. Yeah, it might be more convenient, but it is - by nature - ultimately reductionist; meaning that there will always be discrepancies -- things that don't quite fit within the label.

In your specific case, I totally understand. I was assigned female at birth and raised that way, not realising there was anything other than male or female, or that such a thing could be changed. Still, everyone always knew I was kind of "tomboyish," and that I didn't discriminate based on gender, but it wasn't until much later on that I came to understand my "queer"ness. Only when someone referred to me as part of a group as "all girls" that it kinda clicked, and I just felt really grossed out by that description. I was really confused at first, because I didn't think I was male, and wasn't familiar with the term non-binary to believe that was what I was yet. I'd also always thought I was female, so it was all just really emotionally tiring. Of course, it is sometimes easier to see everything in retrospect; just like how when watching a painting be created, one sometimes just has to trust the process, waiting for everything to emerge clearly in order to properly define it.

Something I'd suggest you not to forget is that gender identity and gender expression are two separate, if not related, concepts. You can identify as male, but still like wearing "girly" clothes, or like activities more typical to girls. You can identify as female and like having short hair or being "tomboyish" or whatever, but still solidly know that you are not male or non-binary. You can be genderfluid, and switch between male, female and/or other genders; or non-binary, where you're not affiliated with male/female/agender; or somewhere in between. All of that is fine, and you don't have to change or deny parts of yourself just to fit into any of those labels.

Ok, so back to my initial point, there are many non-binary, genderfluid, or demi-gendered people prefer something like she/them or he/them, over one or the other. ** From my point of view, you sound like you might prefer being considered demi-femme (basically in a space between/including female and non-binaries), and might like going she/them! **

Granted, these kinds of things can always change with time and tend to be deeply personal, so think it over for yourself, and make your own judgment. Hope this helps you at least a little! I myself (and I'm sure that there are many others, who regardless of their own "queer" experiences) will serve as allies to support to you!

It's OK to not be completely sure about everything having to do with your identity. You don't need to slap a label on it, or absolutely know every feeling you've ever had about those parts of yourself. You can just let what you want out, and we'll do our best to help you sort through it all. Ultimately, it's all up to you though; the ball is in your court! <3<3<3

To everyone who feels like they're worried about whether they're girls or boys: I know it must be very hard, and I sympathize. Maybe it would help (I don't know, but maybe) if you remember that the important thing in life is to enjoy the sunshine, make good friends, work on being a good person, laugh, play, take care of someone who needs you... Life is so full, so beautiful. We're here so that we can enjoy it. Luckily, none of it will change because of your gender!

Yep, I feel you there. I don't have a phone and just have an iPad instead. I felt bad about this too, because most of my friends have phones, until I realized that I don't really... Want one? I mean, I did, but when I think about it, I only wanted one because everyone else has one, and I didn't want to be the only one who didn't have a phone. 

Yeah, I get you too. Almost everyone around me has a phone and when I say I don't have one they're all like, "What? You don't have a phone?". That used to bother me but I realized what phones do to people. They get so focused on social media and screen time that they lose touch with other things, like nature. So it doesn't really bother me that much anymore. But I totally get you. Just try to ignore it, and if you feel bad just think about what NOT having a phone gives you. 

*hugs* *cries* remember, you can still do Zoom and Facetime meetings together... i know it isn't the same, but i hope it helps. *hugs some more*