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submitted by Anonymous, age x, x
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)

GARLIC BREAD AND CAKE EVERYBODY. Okay, maybe ice cream instead of cake. Also, DRAGONS. FREAKING MAJESTIC AMAZING DRAGONS.

 

weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee tired brain go brrrrrrrrr 

submitted by Lunar Flight, age nothing, Lostland
(November 20, 2022 - 11:44 pm)

You have just described my thought process.

submitted by Darkvine
(November 21, 2022 - 8:37 am)

Well I'm glad someone else thinks like me

submitted by Lunar Flight, age nothing, Lostland
(November 21, 2022 - 11:51 am)

idk if this was intentional but the things you listed are like 80% of ace culture XD

So I can relate pretty hard 

submitted by Snazzycakes
(November 21, 2022 - 1:05 pm)

Yeah, that was intentional, but that part of the comment got taken out by the admins. It's understandable, I know other people have had their comments not posted because they talked about stuff like that.

submitted by Lunar Flight, age nothing, Lostland
(November 21, 2022 - 4:56 pm)

I feel like I'm constantly ignored and I don't have a lot of real friendships. I always get left out of inside jokes and games, and I don't want to cause any more drama so I just go along with it. There've been multiple times where my friends hang out without me and I feel like I'm always tagging along like a desperate little kid. It's like wherever I go, I just fade into the background and no one notices me. I'm probably just boring though, I don't know.

submitted by lonely
(November 28, 2022 - 5:26 pm)

@lonely

Hey, I kind of feel the same in a lot of situations. Everyone else has friends, and I'm the weirdo sitting in the corner. I highly doubt you're boring. I know I'm not boring, but I still sit in the corner and don't really talk to people.

You're never truly alone, there's always someone who cares, even if you don't know it. (Yeah I know, that sounds cheesy, but it is true) 

i hope my partially rambling advice helped 

submitted by Lunar Flight, age nothing, Lostland
(November 28, 2022 - 8:47 pm)

I know where you're coming from, and it's hard. It's always awkward and lonely to be the one on the outside, and to be inserting yourself into conversation/groups just to "fit in" somewhere.

You're not boring. You just haven't found your people yet, and that's totally okay. You still have time to explore and figure out where you fit better. Talk to new people! It's hard, I totally get that, but it's worth a try.

I found a group of friends I'm much happier with by playing word games in the library at recess for a while, and we slowly became friends. They're way better than my old "friend" group, where I was ignored and forgotten (literally, we played hide-and-seek a few times and they often forgot I was still hiding at the end).

And if you don't find your irl people for a while, remember that we've got you here. Us CBers care 'bout you, whoever you are. We can be your people while you're still finding others. You matter. You are not boring. You are worth it. You deserve people who can see you and like you for who you are instead of who they want you to be. You got this! 

submitted by Hex
(December 2, 2022 - 8:36 pm)

Lunar Flight and Hex are absolutely right!

I also think drifting isn't always a bad idea. I know not everyone is the most outgoing or extraverted (I get totally get it since I'm also typically on the quieter side) but sometimes just stepping up and saying 'hi' to someone can totally help. Other options are asking to sit with people at lunch, joining a study group or club, or working together with others on group projects during gym class if they're not assigned. That doesn't mean you have to be best friends with any of them, but it might get you closer to finding real friends or better at navigating social interactions. 

~~~ 

On a personal note, I have a pretty quiet voice, tend to stutter/trip over words and have an accent that peaks through every now and then; I tend to be content when I'm alone and everything is quiet and just look super awkward most of the time. I'm the oldest in my family (so no help from elder siblings) didn't grow up where I live right now, and (in fact move around quite frequently) with divorced (but still strictly religious) destitute parents who are pretty unsociable and private and don't allow much if any technology/social media. Add in some childhood trauma and homeschooling, plus a couple disabilities and mental health issues, and there is absolutely nothing screaming "This kid is gonna be real sociable."

But I make it work. I watch and listen and take everything in before practicing playing the roles I see around me. I listen to the radio, small-talk, chatter on the streets on the way to the store, videos on the Internet when I get a chance, and learn as much as I can about how people work and act and talk; how I should work and act and talk. Then I mimic; I put on my mask; step onto the stage, and play the part. Act friendly, wear a faint smile, put some bounce into your step, act like you've never been hurt or scared or nervous before in your life, all while giving strangers the impression that you totally empathise with them, that what they feel is completely natural (which it is). Offer to do helpful things whenever you can and make sure to assure everyone that it's "no problem," or "only natural," shallow as it may seem. Listen to people when they cry or vent and say, "Aw, c'mon, it'll be alright," paint on a furrowed-brow and frown that can melt away like mist on a sunny day as soon as the situation changes. If you're embarrassed, laugh it off; sad, take it to your room; jealous, encourage those around you some and then internally strive to do better. Yeah, fake it 'til you make it, genuinely focus on the positives and ways to change/fix the negatives, all that.

It might not quite be the healthiest method for everyone, but it works plenty well for some. I'm one year away from graduating and it's gotten me a whole social life and future despite all odds and circumstances. Maybe you can try it out too, or apply certain parts of it to your life.

submitted by Jaybells, hoping to help :/
(December 3, 2022 - 11:49 am)

Thanks everyone who responded, it really helped. <3

submitted by lonely
(December 3, 2022 - 5:06 pm)

Hi I'm quite sure I'm a therian and I want to talk to other therians or questioning therians to see what their experiences have been...

any therians out there? 

submitted by Lunar Flight, age nothing, Lostland
(November 28, 2022 - 1:35 pm)

Welp, it's been a long time since you posted that, but heres what I have to say:

I'm a member of the furry fandom, as in a person who likes animal cosplay. That is what "furry" means. Nothing else. And there a lot of therians in the furry fandom, so while I'm not one, I know some people who are.

I don't think there are many therians, or furries, on CB.

Admins-- Please don't take this comment down. There is nothing wrong with being either a furry or a therian. The definition of furry is not something to go into at this time, but a furry is simply a person who likes animal cosplay or anthropomorphic (upright-walking) animal characters. I'm simply trying to help any future CBers who come along.

Thank you.

However, we don't post the names of other websites.

Admin

submitted by Tomato
(February 9, 2023 - 2:18 pm)

I sort of maybe asked the guy I like out on date??? And he is acting like he likes me back???? We are flirting and he's trying to spend more time with me.....WHAT DOES THIS MEAN??? Help would be appreciated, the sort of date is on Sunday, wish me luck please!!!

submitted by Yeah, not sharing, age AHHHH, Shhh....
(November 30, 2022 - 2:20 pm)

Ahhhh! That's a little hard. It's on Sunday, so you have SOME time...did you tell him that you like him or did he tell you?

submitted by Rora
(December 1, 2022 - 8:45 pm)

I haven't told him at all, but it's kind of obvious. We both are super anxious so we kind of awkwardly have talked about the fact that we both like each other. But we haven't outright said it lol

submitted by Yeah, not sharing@Ro
(December 1, 2022 - 10:58 pm)