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submitted by Anonymous, age x, x
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)
I have a friend who has very different beliefs than my family, and she's a super amazing person. A while ago, she started a conversation, talking about trans people and really queer people in general, and saying that what they were doing was bad. She said something like "We believe that if God made you a girl or a boy, it wasn't by accident." And since at the time, I didn't know that much about stuff like that, I just kinda went along with it. I really want to still be her friend but although I don't want to talk about it, she brings it up every once in a while and it makes me feel really awkward, becuase it's what she believes, so I can't tell her what she thinks is wrong, but it's not what I believe, and I don't know how to tell her that.
(January 4, 2024 - 6:06 pm)
No matter what our opinion is on other people, it's not necessary or appropriate to express ideas that could hurt someone. If you think she'd listen, you could try telling her something like that. Also, if she reacts negatively to your expression of your beliefs, why should you have to listen to hers? Friendship and tolerance should be mutual. I've had the most luck with agreeing to disagree, but that doesn't mean you have to be okay with statements that have the potential to cause harm.
(January 4, 2024 - 9:57 pm)
I always counter with, God made me trans, by those standards. that wasn't an accident either.
(January 4, 2024 - 11:20 pm)
I feel like neither of my parents actually take me seriously, ever... they blocked all forms of social media on my ipad and computer. Nothing. I'm THIRTEEN.
They keep going on about how I need to learn responsibility and how to protect myself, but they don't ever actually give me a chance to learn that stuff.
I'm worried that it's because I'm not 20, and I'm a girl. That they don't trust me to be responsible on social media because of my AGE AND GENDER.
help would be appreciated... just please don't tell me about how social media is dangerous. I've already gotten lectures about it.
(January 5, 2024 - 12:33 pm)
I have this EXACT same expierience, only with PHONES. Like, seriously. Even when I say I wouldn't even HAVE social media on my phone, and I would only respond to text messages from people I know, and I would be super-duper careful, and tell my parents everything that's happening, and even let them LOOK AT MY MESSAGES, and finally they agreed to let me and my siblings SHARE a phone, so we can have one for when we go out to do something when our parents aren't there.
Ig my advice would be to tell them exactly how you feel about it. Like, something like what you posted here, even. I wonder if it's about my age and gender too, because I've gotten a lot of "people target teen girls" lectures. Anyway, ik this doesn't help much-- just here to tell you that you're not alone.
(January 5, 2024 - 6:47 pm)
Well, social media is dangerous. it's also unfortunately true that teenage girls do get targeted a lot, for reasons that are way too awful to go into here. :( So if you're a girl, you do have to be especially careful - not because you're weak or silly or incapable, but just because of other people.
However, moving on from that, I don't think your parents are thinking your gender makes you untrustworthy. Social media isn't a good idea for boys either! A friend of mine, a boy, (we'll call him T), recently befriended a girl on social media. She lives in Ecuador, and she asked if she could come stay with T for a while. She could be a wonderful person who would make a really good friend for T, but she could also just be after a way to get into the United States easily. (Or "she" might even be a chatbot.) And that's just a mild example. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, I'm fairly sure it's not a matter of your parents not trusting you; it's a matter of your parents not trusting social media. At least, that's how it is with my parents, so maybe it's the same here.
I do sympathize, though. But hey, at least you're not missing out on much! Social media isn't really a lot of fun. Real-life connections are more meaningful, and you'll actually be better able to make them if you don't have social media. I hope this helps you feel better, and I'll listen if you want to talk more <3
(January 7, 2024 - 12:45 pm)
Is it just me, or did one of the comments (about shots and getting blood drawn) vanish from this thread? I literally just saw and replied to it about an hour ago, and I come back after a dentist appointment and it has completely disappeared...and I couldn't have dreamt it because I remember typing out a response and besides I'm positive I didn't fall asleep while at the computer. O _ O
Yes, the person who submitted it asked me to delete it. So I did.
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(January 5, 2024 - 8:17 pm)
Oops @Lyric sorry didn't know you had replied if you want to give advice still go ahead
(January 7, 2024 - 2:04 pm)
I wish I had seen it before you deleted it *sigh* probably had some good stuff. Do'y think you could give me an abrevation of what you said?
(January 7, 2024 - 4:21 pm)
Um it actually wasn't that long, just me saying that I get really nauseous when I get shots and I'm really worried for when I'll eventually have to get blood drawn. Sorry for deleting it, I'm not sure why I did
(January 7, 2024 - 9:07 pm)
I also did write a response, so I guess I'll give you it again the best I remember it:
I have done this before (twice I think), and yes, I did feel super nervous, but just know that it will be over soon, and just do your best to focus on something else. See if you can bring a book, perhaps, or just take deep breaths. Some other tips I found is to ask for some sort of spray/ointment/etc. that can help decrease the discomfort, you could try roleplaying it beforehand to practice staying calm, or if the word "shot" makes you anxious, subsitute the word for something else, and if necessary, work with a therapist or another professional/trusted adult. I hope this advice helps, but if not, here's a virtual hug :) or cupcakes if you're not the hug type
(January 8, 2024 - 12:42 am)
Thanks @Moon Wolf
*Returns hugs*
(January 8, 2024 - 10:03 pm)
Lol, my tips are actually very similar to Moon Wolf's, so I'm not sure that they'll help much. Deep breathing constantly (before and during) really helps me, as well as reading a book (or just staring at it to avoid looking at the needle) and imagining the shot/blood test before hand. It also helps to plan a reward afterward (like a lollipop, snack, movie, your favorite book, etc.)
Also, blood tests/shots don't hurt very much. Pinches (which I get all the time *sighs*) and falling down hurt way worse. I've actually laughed after taking shots/blood tests before, because I was imagining excruciating pain, which I never felt.
(January 9, 2024 - 10:37 pm)
Haha that actually helps a lot thank you
(January 10, 2024 - 12:46 pm)
aw i'm sorry, shots are no fun :/
i had to get blood drawn a lot as a kid, so i developed a (albeit kind of silly) coping mechanism. i'd imagine fantasy/sci-fi scenarios where i'd experience the same sensation - for instance, i'd been cursed by a wizard or something, and the shot was the magic cure, or something. or they needed to draw my blood because i was immune to some virus that made people zombies. it made it easier for me to cope with it, for some reason - or at least, imagining scenarios distracted from the actual shot. idk, this probably doesn't help much - the others had much better advice lol - but i just wanted you to know that i totally get how scary shots and having your blood drawn can be, and it's okay to be nervous!! <3
(January 10, 2024 - 3:49 pm)