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submitted by Anonymous, age x, x
(October 15, 2020 - 1:43 pm)

i think i need advice. i spent almost all weekend (3-day weekend) doing homework non-stop, because giving myself a break feels wrong since i could be doing homework at that time. now i am very tired and i have no idea what to do with my time, because if i do homework today i will have no energy for homework tomorrow, but i don't know if or when i will have a chance to do homework during the weekday so logically i should take advantage of the weekend to do all the homework i can...

:( 

submitted by Anon
(March 24, 2024 - 7:44 pm)

Okay first of all, I don't know who you are, but since I know you're a CBer I am completely confident in saying this: YOU COMPLETELY DESERVE A BREAK. <3 Homework is really the worst, and it takes up a lot of time. I suggest doing a pomodoro. It goes like this: Set a timer for 25 minutes and work, completely focused, for all of that time. Before you start get rid of all distractions, such as cell phones. Then, when your timer goes off, set another for 5 minutes and do anything you want. Play a video game, grab a snack, starfish on your bed, anything that makes you feel good. And then repeat! I personally don't actually do the full 25 minutes, I usually do 15-20 minutes instead because I have a hard time focusing for that long. But, if you can concentrate for a really long time you can do longer, or if you have a really short attention span you can do shorter. 

submitted by WildWolf, age Wolf years, The deep dark woods
(March 25, 2024 - 3:56 pm)

oof, i have a similar problem :( 

i also do a lot of homework on the weekend, and a lot on weeknights as well. it sucks :( i think that logically, you'd think that working really hard whenever you can is the most productive thing you can do, but honestly it's not. rest is productive, too - it's impossible to operate at 100% all the time, and trying to do that will only make you burn out. like WildWolf said, take breaks! take time to recharge, do something you want to do. don't feel like your time only matters if you're doing schoolwork <3

idk if this is something you're worried about, but while your grades are of course important when you're applying to colleges, they also take your extracurriculars into account! if you're part of a lot of clubs, sports teams, student government, whatever, that'll look really good on your record! so don't let your grades keep you from joining extracurriculars and doing enjoyable stuff with your time :D

if you're actually having trouble managing your homework, maybe talk to your teachers? some of my teachers are annoying about deadlines, but most of them are really understanding. from your post, you sound like you care a lot about schoolwork - if you've established yourself as a hardworking and dedicated student, then i'm sure they'll understand and extend the deadline or something.

hope this helped a bit! if you need any more specific advice, lmk :D

submitted by pangolin, age she/they, Outskirts of the Galaxy
(March 25, 2024 - 5:29 pm)

Tysm WildWolf and pangolin!! <3 I used to do pomodoros, but the breaks got sorta out of control (in other words, longer than the work timer...) so I stopped. I'll think I'll start doing them again :)

Ty for the tips about how working all the time is not as productive as it seems, grades aren't the sole important thing for applying to college, and asking for extensions on assignments! I'll keep them in mind :) yeah, i do care a lot about schoolwork, but i'm going to try to care a little less.

I thought it over, and I think my root problem is not knowing when an assignment meets the requirements and is "okay enough to submit".

But your tips definitely help a lot...thank you!!!

(this is Lyric btw; i usually use lowercase when i am posting anonymously)

submitted by Anon
(March 26, 2024 - 9:33 pm)

almost started crying in chemistry today you guys

i hate my teacher so much >:(( apparently i'm lazy and putting in no effort because i only completed four pages of this thick packet when i had two class periods to do it?? dude i literally had to teach myself the material from scratch because he did not address a THING on that packet in class. "you should've used context clues" yeah RIGHT if i'm so stupid then why couldn't the rest of the class do it either?? like...if getting a 40% on this assignment and having my average severely impacted is the price i have to pay for actually taking the time to understand the material, then so be it, but don't you dare say that i'm lazy or not putting in effort because clearly HE is the one not putting in effort because he hasn't taught us a thing all year, and is literally telling us to use an AI chatbot as a "resource" - are you kidding me?? aknjsdfjnvjfbgn

sorry for the rant, im just so stressed and overworked already and i just really don't need to be dealing with this right now :p

submitted by pangolin, age she/they, Outskirts of the Galaxy
(March 27, 2024 - 6:34 pm)

That sounds like a very hands-off teacher...I'm sorry you had to deal with a 4+ pages packet without him explaining it :( I rly wish I could help in some way, but I don't know anything about chemistry...

Perhaps you could ask the teacher a lot of questions about the packet, in order to maybe get him to teach your class more? 

submitted by Lyric, Too much drawing :(
(March 28, 2024 - 7:07 pm)

that sucks :(( wishing you the best of luck...

and hey I get feeling stressed and overworked and I hope that gets better soon—try to take time to yourself sometimes? read a book, go to bed early, listen to music on your commute instead of freaking out about how much stuff you have to do. even if it's just one breath/hour/day, try to take care of yourself.

and we're always here if you want to rant more/need anything else :)

submitted by Hex
(March 28, 2024 - 11:17 pm)

wait what??? your teacher asked you to use AI?! that's like the most unreliable resource out there, I keep hearing about how people try to use it and it gives them incorrect "information", plus it apparently makes up information a lot of the time, just literally invents it - and this guy wants you to use it instead of teaching you himself?! that's just sad. honestly, he sounds terrible. *is very indignant on your behalf*

if you'd like, i could try to help you with chemistry! i've taken it for several years now, so maybe if you're struggling with something i could explain it and so on. idk if you think it would be useful, but if you'd like it, i'd be willing. it would be a pleasure :)

either way, I wish you the best of luck, and feel free to talk/rant anytime - that's what friends are for :) and if you like I will post a long and indignant letter to your teacher detailing the dangers of using AI and you can print it out and show it to him and maybe he will see the Error of His Ways - and probably repent and go 180 degrees in the other direction and reject all technology and go live in the woods and cook over an open fire, but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it :)

submitted by Poinsettia
(March 29, 2024 - 3:59 pm)
submitted by Poinsettia@pangolin, age whoops, forgot the @pangolin :)
(March 29, 2024 - 4:02 pm)

That sounds horrible so sorry you had to go through that!! And AI?! I mean, the whole point is to learn, not to be a copy-machine (quoting my Chinese school teacher)! And you are definitely not lazy!! You're quite literally like the least lazy person I know (ok, besides, like, my parents... but seriously), and it just makes me so angry that he said that... uh sorry. But really! And you totally aren't stupid and you put in so much effort- I'm sorry I don't have much advice, that sounds like a really tough situation... and don't have much advice for stress either... just, take care of yourself, however you can? Drink tea if you like that, eat your favorite food (assuming your favorite food isn't like $10,000 grilled uh emperor penguin or whatever... also why would your favorite food be $10,000 grilled emperor penguin?? <-- brain that should be sleeping <-- wait do brains sleep? I doubt it. Then how would you breathe? <-- ok nvm.), find moments to laugh...? If it at all helps, look up pictures of snakes in hats (recommended by Darkvine, I totally back this)!!

sending love and hugs if you want and all the best luck!! <33 

submitted by CelineBurning Bright, age unhelpful, should prob go to sleep
(March 30, 2024 - 1:31 am)

What a jerk. You're such a hard worker and he does not know what he is talking about.

I have no advice and I am late, but I hope you're feeling better now and I'm sorry that happened to you. You deserve better

submitted by Periwinkle, age 14, Somewhere in the stars
(April 1, 2024 - 10:20 am)
thank you all for the replies!! your comments/advice/support mean so much <3 i think there isn't much to do but ignore him and try and learn chemistry myself, tbh :/ i mean...my first reaction is to try and impress him or whatever - and my whole school is full of people who are used to being the top of the class/teacher's pet, so that's pretty much everyone's impulse - but clearly that sort of thinking isn't going to get anyone anywhere, so my best bet is to just prepare for the regents, and not give him a second thought... anyway, thank you all <33 i really appreciate it <3
@Poinsettia, if you really want to write about the dangers of ai, i'd definitely show it to him (and i'd be interested to read it myself lol), but i don't know if it'd change his mind :p but thank you for the offer :D
submitted by pangolin, age she/they, Outskirts of the Galaxy
(April 1, 2024 - 8:59 pm)

this month is the first month that I have missed my writing goal since I started fifteen months ago. and i didn't make it to nationals. and the school quarter ends this friday and all of my grades are dropping. and i'm drifting apart from all my friends and it's my fault. and every day i wake up and tell myself that today is the day that I'm going to change everything in my life to make myself happy. and every day ends exactly the same. what's the point

 

 

submitted by Silver Crystal, age Infinity, Milky Way
(March 31, 2024 - 9:44 pm)

I may come back with advice later if you want it, but for now I just want you to know I saw this and I care about you. I think you're a good person. *hugs and positivitea if you want them*

submitted by Periwinkle, age 14, Somewhere in the stars
(April 1, 2024 - 10:25 am)

First off - this is the first month you’ve missed your writing goals for fifteen months. Isn’t that amazing in its own way? That’s fifteen months that you did get your writing goals and that’s really impressive. I think that this is part of a bigger issue though from talking to you. You’ve been really really overworked, from what I can tell, and it makes sense that if you’re burned out you’ll be struggling. Please, at the very very least, try to forgive yourself for not meeting your writing goal. It’s okay. Did you write any? That’s a good start. Did you not write any? That’s okay too, and it mostly says that you’re tired right now and need to take care of that.

But even then - maybe you won’t be happy right away. That’s okay. But if you can try to be more forgiving to yourself when you don’t meet your goals, that’s a very good start. If you can use summer break (which I think is coming up) to let yourself rest and not have all these really high expectations and realize that’s what you need right now and that’s the most important thing, that’s even better. (Also, if you can’t let yourself rest just because you need it: you will do better at writing and friends and anything if you’re not exhausted.) I guess it’s smaller steps probably is what i’m saying. Please, please try to realize these things:

-You are doing amazing. I promise. Even if it’s not where you want to be. That hurts because often you have to be “the best” to get to the really high places that you want to be. But you’ve said you’re in the top high school in your city. Like you said, you’re surrounded by people who are the Youth Poet Laureate of their counties and are freshmen in college at 16. That’s impressive in its own. You’re an amazing poet and writer, from what you’ve posted on here. You’re really really nice. Just by being supportive of half of the things i say about gender means that you’re ahead of most people heh. So you are doing great. I promise.

-even if you’re not doing great, that doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It just means you’re not doing great and maybe have some things that need to be fixed (even if you can’t fix them because that can’t always be done).

-You’re burned out. There might be other things too, but I think that’s part of it. Maybe you won’t do the best during the end of school this year. That’s okay. Focus on resting and recovering. That’s how you can do your best. And it’ll be less miserable.

I don’t know if any of this helps or makes sense. But i promise this is all okay and even if you can’t fix any of it, if you can’t bring your grades back up, if you miss another writing goal, try to be nice to yourself. It’s okay if you’re struggling. Please please try to rest and recover from the burnout, especially during break.  

Maybe i’m completely wrong but either way it’s always good to be nice to yourself so *shrugs* I hope any of this helps and sorry if it doesn't. might later more if i think of it

submitted by Bobcat@Silver, age Swan Lake!, Blackfooted Bobcat
(April 1, 2024 - 12:22 pm)